Ten lessons to transform your marriage - John Mordechai Gottman

In Ten Lessons to Transform Your
Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools-scientifically based and empirically verified-that
you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication.

In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made
a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis,
they could predict-with more than 90 percent accuracy-whether a marriage would succeed
or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage
into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife,
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together
with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice.

What emerged from the Gottmans' collaboration and decades of research
is a body of advice that's based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married
couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive
ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work
through potentially destructive problems-extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood
adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy-and examine what they've done to
improve communication and get their marriages back on track.

Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks
to the Gottmans' work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling
or rescue one that's headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.