The inner lover - Valerie Harms

This is a practical guide to using romantic and sexual fantasy for personal growth. The author describes how the reader - using fantasy, dreamwork, and active imagination - can internalize outer attractions into an "inner lover".;She shows how cultivating a relationship with the inner lover can facilitate increased personal growth and creativity, resulting in Jungian "sacred marriage", a state of inner harmony, balance and wholeness. The author discusses the effect of one's first outer lovers - one's parents - on later love relationships, as well as the effect of adolescent influences such as rock stars. She then moves into the realm of real lovers - spouses, impossible or inappropriate attractions, same-sex friends or lovers - using her own experiences as illustrations. Here she shows how the reader can use any relationship to transform pain, anger or disappointment into the energy of the inner love.;The author also wrote "Frolic's Dance" and "Unmashing".